Finding My Best Ever Lover & The Weight I Was Born to Be
Finding inner peace and the weight I was born to be has been a lifetimes quest for me. Over the years my body has fluctuated from a massive size 30 to a size 16. As a child I was always overweight. Eating was a way of gaining attention from my father. All be this negative attention, it was better than no attention at all from my child-like perspective.
If truth be known I have spent a majority of my life wearing my ‘Fat Jacket’. Through all of this time, fat or thin, I never knew what it was to actually love myself. I had perfected the technique of looking happy on the outside whilst inside I was crying.
At last I have realised that this is a journey of a lifetime with no end goal to achieve or weight to attain. It is an ongoing journey in life of weight loss management to find and nurture the best love affair I have ever had – this time with myself!
Today a dear friend offered me a loving insight into what other people think of me. The interesting thing is that it did not match my personal perception. The mirror I look into reflects back at me a vision of someone who is just not ‘Good Enough’ (sounds familiar?). With that attitude it is no wonder I find it impossible to love myself, sustain healthy eating habits and exercise regularly.
All the negative, false messages I learnt in childhood, that become reinforced in adulthood, prevented me from developing a sustainable, healthy and loving relationship with myself, my body and the food I put into it. Even when I lost weight I still believed I was ‘Not Good Enough’ and so the cycle of comfort eating would begin all over again. I lacked weight loss motivation.
Diets, dieting, the weight loss media machine, in fact the total way we view life through a shroud of guilt, shame and negative messages is a trap! All its messages perpetuate the ‘I’m Not Good Enough’ belief. How then can we get off this life-destoying treadmill?
The answer, I have decided, is to focus only on self-love. Like any type of change, this is easier said than done so I am following the 8 tips listed in the book Loving Yourself to Great Health by Louise Hay, Ahlea Khadro and Heather Dane:
- Decide You Are Important Enough
- Take Baby Steps
- Keep it Simple and Gentle
- Be Consistent
- Get Helpers
- Have Fun
- Celebrate Even Small Successes
- Think Positive
These are great tips that I am now following.
Chrissie Webber is the author of WEIGHT LOSS, LIFE GAIN and also a weight management coach with over 20 years experience in motivation and behavioural coaching. Through her Facebook Support Group
she offers support and motivation to the 95% – 97% of dieters who are still struggling to find the weight they were born to be.
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